Finding a balance to stress in the Mental Aspect of Health is difficult because for some of the population it is the mental stress that leads to many physical, spiritual, and social stresses which is usually also coupled with mental stress. But there is a need to build that Mental Buffer!
There is no room for negative thinking. This type of thought process will dominate your lifestyle and pervade every aspect of your life. IT can lead to panic attacks, paranoia, weight loss, overeating, cynicism, depression, mood swings. Negative thinking can become a serious habit. My suggestion to individuals who are on that pathway is to encourage these individuals to keep a diary of what makes them feel negative or want to lash out. Write your thoughts down. Put a rubber band around your wrist and pop it every time you feel that way. I suggested that exercise to one of my adult children and his response was,”but it hurts!” Physical hurting is real but can you imagine the hurt to your psyche and soul! Also, with the writing exercise you may realize how much time your are wasting writing instead of playing, working, relaxing. Negative thinking is dangerous and consuming.
When you perceive something as dangerous/negative, your brain kicks into the fight/flight response. That is great if you feel that you are in danger and will lose your life because you would need to fight or run; however how many times is this response being triggered by life events that are not life threatening! Is a flat tire life threatening? Is oversleeping life threatening? Is a bad hair day life threatening? Is getting behind a slow driver life threatening? If you pass the slow driver on a blind curve – it is! (Guess who did that just once in their lifetime?)
Besides learning to be aware of the habit of negative thinking, learn to avoid most of the things, persons, or places that cause this response. Stay away from people, places or things that bring you down. Avoid depressing news which may mean turning off the TV. I only watch the news when I am exercising. Who wants to read the news? It is also depressing and beyond anyone’s control. An individual cannot control or fix everyone or everything.
Scheduling down-time is a great relief for negative thoughts. Down-time means turn off the phone, the ipad, the computer. Just be. But like everything else it needs to be scheduled. During this down-time, please become aware of how your body is reacting. Is your breathing fast and shallow? Are the muscles in your arms tight? Take some long deep breathes. Roll your shoulders. Rest your arms in your lap. Release your tension. If you practice these exercises throughout the day while you are waiting in line at the elevator, in the grocery store, in the lunch line, or at the red light, you will be amazed at how tight and tense you are but also how easy these brief short exercises can help you slow down, get loose, and lower your tension. My son’s computer was in the shop for 2 days and like most of us it is a huge source for work as well as pleasure. He felt so good without it. Imagine that!
Listen, feel, practice.
More another day.